Where To Go Right Now As a Queer Traveler

Pride Month may be halfway over and you might not even be traveling right now. That's okay, because there are places you can visit all year that are safe, welcoming, and help you engage with new people in the queer community. It can be scary going to a new place, especially as a minority, woman, or LGBTQ, so I wanted to do a little research for those of you who want to travel, but aren't entirely sure where you should go.

You don't want to keep going back to the same places you've been to before, even if it is tried-and-true, you can only visit those places so many times before you're longing for something else. Yes, this is coming from someone who visits Las Vegas multiple times per year, but it's not the only place I visit and it's also never my big trip of the year. It's just one of the smaller getaways I take, but unlike a lot of destinations, Las Vegas is continually changing. 

Some countries that are moving towards a more inclusive environment are:

• Barbados - while British Colonial law seems to have been cemented in this country's history, and gay & lesbians haven't always had the easiest time, Barbados lifted their ban on same-sex activity just in 2022. I'm not sure how they enforce a law without being in people's bedrooms, but this is a big step towards more accepting society.
• Chile - a pioneer in the queer acceptance front (in South America), Chile legalized same-sex marriage in 2022 and has created a number of laws since 2019 surrounding gender equality, trans rights, and the outlaw of conversion therapy. Santiago's pride month is the 3rd largest in South America and prohibits for-profit brands from participating.
• Estonia - the Baltics are a bit behind when it comes to marriage equality and rights, but Estonia became the first of them to legalize same-sex marriage (2024) and public opinion on same-sex relationships is on the rise as well. There's no Pride Month here, but Baltic Pride rotates country (Estonia, Latvia, and Lithuania) each year. It's not ideal, but it's possible that changes in the future and maybe other Baltic countries will take their lead.
• Greenland - last year saw the passing of the Law on Equal Treatment and Anti-Discrimination, but same-sex marriage has been legal in Greenland since 2016. Greenland finally has a direct flight from the U.S., establishing itself as a tourist destination, but it also launched this Pride Month and welcomes queer travelers to its progressive environment for equal rights.
• India - though same-sex marriage isn't legalized (yet), India has been evolving on acceptance of the queer community over the years, officially ruling that same sex couples could be recognized as familial units and also qualifying for social security. Their KASHISH Pride Film Festival in Dubai has over 150 films and 10,000 attendees.
• South Africa - same-sex marriage was legalized in 2006 and last year they passed the “Prevention and Combating of Hate Crimes and Hate Speech Bill”, which has largely been met with enthusiasm, especially among LGBTQ+ advocacy groups. Cape Town is also slated to hold World Pride in 2028.
• Thailand - the second Asian country to legalize same-sex marriage is not only warm, but also very affordable. The new law that grants same-sex couples equal legal, financial, and medical rights as heterosexual couples. It also gave them adoption and inheritance rights.

If you're traveling within the U.S. and want to go to the most accepting cities, here are the top 15 for you:

• San Francisco, California (obvs)
• Hartford, Connecticut - this was a surprise to me, but now I feel like I should go visit.
• Las Vegas, Nevada
• Portland, Oregon (yay!)
• Denver, Colorado
• Los Angeles, California
• San Diego, California
• Sacramento, California
• Chicago, Illinois
• New Orleans, Louisiana
• San Jose, California
• Richmond, Virginia (so rich in history, too!)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania (home of Mister (Fred) Rogers)
• Baltimore, Maryland
• Milwaukee, Wisconsin

You may want to avoid visiting these states:

• Florida
• Indiana
• Kansas
• North Carolina

And these cities in particular:

• Memphis, Tennessee
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• Houston, Texas
• Jacksonville, Florida
• Birmingham, Alabama
• Miami, Florida
• Dallas, Texas
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
• Tampa, Florida
• St Louis, Missouri
• Kansas City, Missouri

Personally, I enjoy visiting destinations that are progressive or are attempting to do better when it comes to the treatment and equality of people. All people. I'm a strong ally for marginalized people and I want to support places that are doing what is right and are supporting people of all types. Those are the communities I feel should get my tourist dollars.

Make sure to use Equaldex and Global Change Data Lab to help you plan your trips when you're unsure of safety, laws, and public opinion scores. You can also use these tips and resources, and use social media to ask your friends about their experiences.

Travel well and happy, knowing you chose the best places for you. Tell me your favorite cities/countries that are welcoming to all.

6 Items to Double-Check You Packed

There are a lot of things that you can buy when you get where you're going, but sometimes that isn't convenient or economically feasible. I've, unfortunately, forgotten some necessary things when I've traveled, and I've remembered to never do that again, but sometimes you just miss something. 

I always suggest having a standard packing list for your trips that have all the essentials on it and can be changed up for everything else. Here are 6 things you don't want to forget or pack in your checked bag, if you have to do that:

Medication

Whether you have prescription meds that you need to take or you plan to bring along regular over the counter items, like aspirin and bandages. These things should go in your carry-on. While we all know what a pain it is to have to run up to the grocery store or drug store for something for a headache, but it can be almost impossible to figure out how to get a few days of your prescription meds when you're on a trip, especially when you're out of the country. 

OTC meds and necessities like pain relievers aren't always easy to find everywhere in the world and can even be quite a bit more than they are at home. I keep a small stock of ibuprofen, antacids, sleep aids, bandages, antibacterial gel, and several other things in my bag at all times and replace as needed. 

Photo by Reproductive Health Supplies Coalition on Unsplash

Menstrual Products

If you are a person who menstruates, then you know how inconvenient it can be when you aren't expecting to start your period. After starting right in the middle of a vacation (twice!) and not having any product with me, I make sure to keep a small supply of items with me, just in case. If nothing else, it'll help tide you over until you can get to a store. If nothing else, some overnight pads and either a cup or enough tampons for several days should be in your bag, whether you expect to start or not. As a perimenopausal woman, you may not have a period for months and then all of a sudden get it and it lasts way longer than you expect.

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Charging Cord(s)

I've forgotten a charging cord for my ipod before when they weren't available everywhere for, like, $7. I went to a bunch of electronics stores in Quito, Ecuador and nobody had one. One of the guys who worked at our hotel was nice enough to lend us one for a few days, which was very nice, but also not optimal. I have a cord bag that has a travel cord for my laptop, charging cords for our phones and other electronics, and USB wall and car adapters. It's always in my bag, so I know I always have what I need for everything we bring.

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Passport/ID and Travel Info

You're not going to get very far if you don't have your passport or your ID, unless you aren't flying. Also, make sure your identification is still in good standing. While the airport may not care if your driver license is still valid, they will care if you're trying to rent a car or if your passport is expired. 

Sometimes your phone dies or you don't have a signal. Make sure you have a back-up version of your travel documents, so you know where you're going and how to contact places if you need to. It's also important to have copies of things securely in the cloud, in case something bad happens and you lose your passport or you get robbed. 

Contact Solution

This never seemed like an issue when I traveled until we went from Disneyland Paris to actual Paris and forgot all of our liquids in our hotel and no way to retrieve them. While I freaked out about not having most of my makeup, we had to go purchase toothpaste and shampoo, we also had to buy contact solution. Oddly, this was not available in any store we went to and were told we would need to go to an optometrist to buy it. They were all closed until the next day, and when we finally went to one the next morning, a tiny bottle was $8. 

This may have changed by now, but I just like to make sure I have everything I need with me all the time. We both also check every drawer and shelf before we leave an accommodation now. I was lucky that I had the bare minimum of makeup, including what could be used as moisturizer, to get me through the week we had left of our trip. (On the last day I saw a Sephora in the neighborhood of our rental, but by then I just ordered replacement items from my home Sephora. Now I only take small containers with what I need.)

Photo by Rocio Ramirez on Unsplash

Emergency Cash/Card

Things happen and sometimes travel can be unexpected, so just in case things don't go as planned, make sure to have an emergency credit card and some cash that can get you through a few days or a long travel delay. You don't need me to tell you why this is important. Also make sure you have a physical credit card. Not everyone takes Apple Pay or Venmo and only having tap-to-pay on your phone is not a great option.

Now that you know what you need to be a successful traveler and be ready for curveballs, go pack your bag and worry about fewer things. Have you ever forgotten something important/necessary on a trip?