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Saturday, June 28, 2025

Budget "Europe" for Summer

Europe is really hot this summer. It's one of the best values this year for travelers, but what if you can't afford a trip to Europe? Maybe it's absolutely not in your budget or maybe you have another trip coming up or maybe you're afraid to leave the country right now. In fact, several of my non-binary and trans friends have said they aren't leaving the U.S., due to fear that they will be hassled at security or barred from returning, because the political climate at the moment is horrifying if you don't conform to traditional gender norms.

Europe is one of the best values for summer travel this year, but if you don't have that in the budget, check out these U.S. dupes.

There are precautions you can take when it comes to updating your passport and dealing with TSA, but that doesn't mean you want to put yourself in a situation that might be traumatizing, so let's get on with places you can go instead of actual Europe, that still feel like you're in Europe. No passport required!

Anchorage, Alaska is a short drive from a twin of the Norwegian Fjords
I spent part of my childhood in Alaska, and I can tell you how otherworldly it feels in parts. You can take glacier tours, spend so much time outside that you don't have to even see the city for most of your trip, and even take a tram to the top of a mountain. Some free things to do in Anchorage: The Ulu Factory to see how knives are made, Alaska Public Lands Information Center, and the Elmendorf State Fish Hatchery.


Aspen, Colorado has big Swiss Alps energy
Colorado is beautiful, and even Denver feels different than a lot of other big cities I've been in. In Aspen, head to Independence Pass at the Continental Divide for gorgeous pictures. If you need a break from hiking pristine trails, go explore Independence Ghost Town, Ute Cemetery, and Aspen Art Museum.

Calistoga, California brings a spa town of Czech Republic to you
With hot springs, mud baths, and vineyards added to actual castles, this Napa Valley town kind of has it all. Maybe with a bit of a higher price tag than a Czech vacation, but much cheaper airfare, so it probably evens out. When you aren't relaxing and luxuriating, you can visit the Petrified Forest, peruse the Oxbow Public Market, V Marketplace, and Napa Farmers Market, and check out the Robert Louis Stevenson Museum. You can get the Summer In the Vineyards Passport for big savings and feel a bit more like you've left the country.


Cape Cod, Massachusetts has Cornwall, England vibes
You can stroll the countryside and enjoy a meal in a lovely pub, but you can also harvest your own oysters and savor one of the most beautiful sunsets. Truro Vineyards gives free tours of the winery and distillery, see flowers for free at Spohr Gardens and Cape Cod Lavender Farm, and go ona free guided towur of the French Cable Station Museum.

Carmel-by-the-Sea, California bears a strong resemblance to rural France and Germany
Fall in love with the storybook architecture that took hold in the 1920's and never left this little town. You also have the Carmel Boardwalk, the Scenic Road Walkway, and the Jones & Terwilliger Galleries. Do some boutique shopping at Carmel Plaza or The Barnyard.

Catalina Island, California can feel like Greece or the Amalfi Coast
I haven't been to Catalina Island since I was a kid and it's probably time for another visit. It always felt like a different world there. Take a ferry the 20 miles to the island with its crystal waters and rocky shoreline. It's easily walkable and even has its own fish fine art gallery called Afishonados Gallery.


Grand Marais, Minnesota transports you to lakeside villages of Sweden
Sweden is made up of islands and Grand Marais embodies that feel. Get your fill of seafood, go on a waterfall tour, and browse in Drury Lane Books. If you love hiking, there's so much to do, plus kayaking, bike riding, and even searching for agates at Five Mile Beach.

Leavenworth, Washington is a copy of a little German village
When we first moved to the Portland area, my family took a road trip up to Washington to see Leavenworth on the off-season. It was very cute, but we were the only people staying in our hotel. Leavenworth gets really busy during the fall, especially for Oktoberfest. You can enjoy activities all year round at Front Street Park, go hiking, fishing, or visit one of the wineries or breweries there.

Mendocino, California mirrors the dramatic coasts of England and Ireland
This walkable village overlooks the Pacific Ocean with breathtaking sea cliffs. It is home to Point Cabrillo Light Station State Park, which has free admission, the home of the city's founder, Ford House Visitor Center & Museum, which also has free entry, and Patterson's Irish Pub.

Montauk, New York puts you in a Denmark beach town 
If you enjoy surfing, or just like to watch surfing, Montauk is much like Klitmøller. There's also Shadmoor State Park, Lake Montauk, several attractive beaches, and dunes to walk along. Gosman's Dock is a collection of shops and restaurants and you can get culture at Second House Museum.


Santa Barbara, California does a good imitation of Madrid, Spain
Spanish settlers came to Santa Barbara in the 1700s and brought their architecture with them. Learn the history and take in these gorgeous buildings on a walking tour. Pack a picnic and watch the sunset and enjoy the roses at A.C. Postel Memorial Rose Garden, take a drive through Lompoc Flower Fields (meant to be enjoyed from your car), view 100 varieties of orchids at Santa Barbara Orchid Estate, or delight all your senses at Clairmont Lavender Farm. Other freebies include taking your photo at Chromatic Gate, visiting El Presidio de Santa Barbara State Historic Park, and a self-guided Red Tile Walking Tour.

Solvang, California is a dupe for Denmark
Founded by Danish immigrants in 1911, the Danes built a mini Denmark here in the middle of California. The restuarant that opened that same year, Bit O' Denmark, still stands and serves up delicious, traditional food. Look for windmills, eat Danish pastries, and find a troll. Save money by visiting the free (donations accepted) Elverhøj Museum of History & Art, the Old Mission Santa Ines, and Hans Christian Andersen Park.

Sonoma County in California is your substitute for Provence, France
The lavender fields bloom in Sonoma summer, just like in Provence. If you've spent the bulk of your budget on a place to stay, don't worry, you can indulge in free wine tastings with the Sonoma County Vineyard Adventures, visit a local farm, take a self-guided tour of a garden like Luther Burbank Home & Gardens, or go hiking in the redwoods.

Temecula, California gives you the experience of Tuscany, Italy
With dozens of vineyards along the rolling hills, you'll have a hard time convincing yourself you're not in Tuscany. Europa Villag Wineries & Resort was designed to keep you in that state or mind. It has 3 tasting rooms, each modeled after Spain, Italy, and France. Once you're ready to explore the rest of the region, you can do so on a budget with free activities like Sugarplum Zoo, Temecula Valley Museum, Old Town Temecula Farmer's Market, where you can pick up some fresh fruits to feed to the ducks at Temecula Duck Pond & Park.

As you can see, you could take a California road trip and hit a lot of "Europe" in one go. In fact, this sounds like an amazing idea for a future trip to me. But even if you can only just choose one or two destinations, you can stil enjoy tricking yourself into feeling like you aren't in the U.S. for a bit.


Wednesday, June 25, 2025

Portland Coffee Tour 2025 - Part 6

June has been a great month to get out of the house and go hang at a coffee shop. You know I love a cool coffee shop vibe, almost as much as I love a great cup of coffee. Portland knows how to brew beans and turn them into something magical and I really found some of those special places this month. 

Portland knows how to brew coffee beans and turn them into something magical and I really found some of those special places this month.

If you enjoy a good cup of coffee, brewed in a chill environment, read on for some shops to hit up if you come to Portland (we're in the top 10 cities for inclusivity for LGBTQ+ travelers, in the top 20 cities that are best for visiting for 4th of July, and our airport is awesome) or if you live here and are looking for a new spot.

Chilita's Coffee

There are so many coffee shops in bookshops, but this one is actually in the lobby of the Tigard Public Library. I wasn't expecting it, since nowhere does it say that it's not on the street, but I wasn't upset by it. This shop serves up basic espresso drinks - I got a vanilla latte - and breakfast sandwiches. They don't look like much, but they are simple and delicious. The seating here was so chill that I hung out to do some work for longer than I absolutely needed to. 


The lobby is really bright and open, with tall ceilings and two entire walls of windows. There's also an art installation hanging from the ceiling. It's welcoming and comfortable. You can pick up reserved books via their book lockers or you can finish your drink and go peruse the library. This shop also serves puffle waffles with ice cream, danishes, yogurt, and lunch sandwiches, so you're set for whatever time of day you visit.

Baristopia

I have been meaning to go to this little self-contained neighborhood for a while. They are apartments on top and the street in the middle has retail and restaurants on the bottom floor with (limited) parking. There's even a dental office here, so you almost don't have to leave if you live there. Baristopia has a gorgeous Instagram and I was excited to have a little bit of time to nip over there and try out their coffee.

They have your standard espresso drinks and then a handful of specialty drinks that all sound amazing. I asked the barista for her recommendation and she Sweet Europe Latte, which is a tiramisu base with Irish cream and sprinkles of cocoa powder on top. It sounds like a lot, but it really all complemented each other and was an awesome mix. I also chose a pistachio rose croissant. They're made by a local bakery called Nuvrei. The croissant is really pink and the pistachio filling was just enough and a pretty green. They top them with big pink sugar crystals. 

The shop itself is Asian owned and brought their roasting style from Shanghai. While there, the owner was experimenting with different flavor combos, so I know how they got this drink that I was currently drinking. It has the popular clean white and wood interior, but with a hint of cabin cozy with a large seating area surrounding a fireplace. If you time it right, you can get a quick, light breakfast here and then walk down the block and eat lunch at one of the interesting restaurants there, like the Asian chicken wings taproom.

Battle Grounds Gaming Cafe

I've been working really hard on growing the community around the nonprofit I am on the board of and we have started holding what we call magical meet and greets, where we get current and potential volunteers to come meet us and play some games and chat and ask us any questions they have. Our last one was held at a gaming shop called Battle Grounds, where you can play D&D and other TTRPGs and also eat and drink while there. The cafe has a lot of delicious espresso drinks and a big selection of pastries (some of which might also come from Nuvrei) from Farina Bakery and bagels from Spielman's. There's even meat and cheese platters. 

Now, I didn't view this as a regular coffee tour stop, because I was mostly there in another capacity, but the drinks were delicious. I had two. I had a regular vanilla latte and then their campfire smores latte. I also picked up the Everything Galette, which was a super buttery pastry with cream cheese and everything bagel seasoning. Everyone who stopped at the coffee bar and came in to meet us was very complimentary of what they got.

Next month I'll be out of town for a good portion of it, so I'm already jumping on my July visits early. One is a different location that I reviewed quite a few years ago and one is a totally new coffee lounge altogether, so stay tuned for those and another shop I have yet to decide on. If you follow me on Instagram, you'll see short reviews of those already, plus new places (to me) I'll be drinking at in Vegas and in the Tacoma, Washington area.

Tell me your favorite coffee shops from wherever you are or wherever you've traveled.


Wednesday, June 18, 2025

Where To Go Right Now As a Queer Traveler

Pride Month may be halfway over and you might not even be traveling right now. That's okay, because there are places you can visit all year that are safe, welcoming, and help you engage with new people in the queer community. It can be scary going to a new place, especially as a minority, woman, or LGBTQ, so I wanted to do a little research for those of you who want to travel, but aren't entirely sure where you should go.

Pride Month may be halfway over and you might not even be traveling right now, but there are places you can visit all year that are safe and welcoming

You don't want to keep going back to the same places you've been to before, even if it is tried-and-true, you can only visit those places so many times before you're longing for something else. Yes, this is coming from someone who visits Las Vegas multiple times per year, but it's not the only place I visit and it's also never my big trip of the year. It's just one of the smaller getaways I take, but unlike a lot of destinations, Las Vegas is continually changing. 

Some countries that are moving towards a more inclusive environment are:

  • Barbados - while British Colonial law seems to have been cemented in this country's history, and gay & lesbians haven't always had the easiest time, Barbados lifted their ban on same-sex activity just in 2022. I'm not sure how they enforce a law without being in people's bedrooms, but this is a big step towards more accepting society.
  • Chile - a pioneer in the queer acceptance front (in South America), Chile legalized same-sex marriage in 2022 and has created a number of laws since 2019 surrounding gender equality, trans rights, and the outlaw of conversion therapy. Santiago's pride month is the 3rd largest in South America and prohibits for-profit brands from participating.
  • Estonia - the Baltics are a bit behind when it comes to marriage equality and rights, but Estonia became the first of them to legalize same-sex marriage (2024) and public opinion on same-sex relationships is on the rise as well. There's no Pride Month here, but Baltic Pride rotates country (Estonia, Latvia, and Lithuania) each year. It's not ideal, but it's possible that changes in the future and maybe other Baltic countries will take their lead.
  • Greenland - last year saw the passing of the Law on Equal Treatment and Anti-Discrimination, but same-sex marriage has been legal in Greenland since 2016. Greenland finally has a direct flight from the U.S., establishing itself as a tourist destination, but it also launched this Pride Month and welcomes queer travelers to its progressive environment for equal rights.
  • India - though same-sex marriage isn't legalized (yet), India has been evolving on acceptance of the queer community over the years, officially ruling that same sex couples could be recognized as familial units and also qualifying for social security. Their KASHISH Pride Film Festival in Dubai has over 150 films and 10,000 attendees.
  • South Africa - same-sex marriage was legalized in 2006 and last year they passed the “Prevention and Combating of Hate Crimes and Hate Speech Bill”, which has largely been met with enthusiasm, especially among LGBTQ+ advocacy groups. Cape Town is also slated to hold World Pride in 2028.
  • Thailand - the second Asian country to legalize same-sex marriage is not only warm, but also very affordable. The new law that grants same-sex couples equal legal, financial, and medical rights as heterosexual couples. It also gave them adoption and inheritance rights.

If you're traveling within the U.S. and want to go to the most accepting cities, here are the top 15 for you:
  • San Francisco, California (obvs)
  • Hartford, Connecticut - this was a surprise to me, but now I feel like I should go visit.
  • Las Vegas, Nevada
  • Portland, Oregon (yay!)
  • Denver, Colorado
  • Los Angeles, California
  • San Diego, California
  • Sacramento, California
  • Chicago, Illinois
  • New Orleans, Louisiana
  • San Jose, California
  • Richmond, Virginia (so rich in history, too!)
  • Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania (home of Mister (Fred) Rogers)
  • Baltimore, Maryland
  • Milwaukee, Wisconsin
You may want to avoid visiting these states:
  • Florida
  • Indiana
  • Kansas
  • North Carolina
And these cities in particular:
  • Memphis, Tennessee
  • Houston, Texas
  • Jacksonville, Florida
  • Birmingham, Alabama
  • Miami, Florida
  • Dallas, Texas
  • Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
  • Tampa, Florida
  • St Louis, Missouri
  • Kansas City, Missouri

Personally, I enjoy visiting destinations that are progressive or are attempting to do better when it comes to the treatment and equality of people. All people. I'm a strong ally for marginalized people and I want to support places that are doing what is right and are supporting people of all types. Those are the communities I feel should get my tourist dollars.

Make sure to use Equaldex and Global Change Data Lab to help you plan your trips when you're unsure of safety, laws, and public opinion scores. You can also use these tips and resources, and use social media to ask your friends about their experiences.

Travel well and happy, knowing you chose the best places for you. Tell me your favorite cities/countries that are welcoming to all.

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